What I would I do with a journal?

Oct 29, 2021

Dear Diary,

            Guess what happened today?  Mikey held my hand after the basketball game!  I love him!  He scored 14 points! He said he could hear me cheering for him!  I can’t wait to see him tomorrow!  Sharon and Janet were giving me dirty looks at halftime. They are so mean.  Sharon’s skirt is too short.   I hope they never get a boyfriend.  Sweet dreams.


Dear Diary:

            My sister and I got into a fight and mom took her side again.  She is such a little brat and always wants to follow me everywhere and do everything I do.  I don’t want anyone in my room anymore.  I made a sign that says Stay Out.   I will talk to you tomorrow. 


Dear Diary:

            I am so scared.  I got a C on my report card in math.  I hate math so much!  Mrs. Apple is so mean to me.  I poured my milk on my report card on purpose.  Maybe Dad won’t be able to read the grades.  I will tell you what happens tomorrow.


Dear Diary:

            I get to go to the Haunted House tonight with my friends!  I hope Mikey is there.  Talk to you later!


Dear Diary:

            Mikey was there!  We walked through the Haunted House together and he put his arm around me in front of everyone!  I am so happy!  I love you Diary.


Example of a “journal” by 12-year-old Kelly.




The first time I picked up a journal, it was called a “diary.”  I was rounding the corner into my teens and a girlfriend gifted me with a pink diary with a shiny gold lock and key.  I treasured this diary.  I wrote in it with a special pink pen.  This diary was a sacred place I could keep certain feelings and secrets safely tucked away from others’ eyes.  Feelings I was either embarrassed to share with others or didn’t feel safe to share.   I cherished this prized possession and my time spent with it.  I would hide my diary, and rehide it, every few weeks for safekeeping from others hands.  Especially The Parents. When I first started writing in my diary I felt ashamed and guilty —  Guilty for expressing any anger, sadness, loneliness, wistful thinking about boys.  Things I felt I just could not share with anyone.  Anyone.   


 Entering my teens,  I spilled my tender teenage heart out on those pages of more diaries that I purchased with my allowance:  boy crushes;  girl squabbles; scribbling cuss words at my parents for not letting me go to a sleepover; my dreams of my first official car date and with whom; constant fears of report cards and tests.  My diary was the first one to know of my first kiss in 7th grade.  The first one to know I was in love.  The list could go on and on.   I shared everything with my diary – I could share myself freely without fear of judgment or punishment.  It was the friend I wished I had.


I vented to my diary and celebrated with my diary. My heart and soul lived through the writings, woes and tears that filled those pages.  My diary was everything inside of me that I felt I could not share – or didn’t know how.   There were no repercussions from sharing my growing pains with my diary.  Those open pages were so inviting – only there for me and my young vulnerable heart.  Time with my friend was sacred, and it was so special that it had a lock and key that I guarded with my life. 


In my teen years, friends took the place of my diary for the most part.  But as we all know, teenage girls are mean and are always looking to spread gossip so I could not tell them Everything!  I still had plenty to write about because now boys entered the picture regularly.  (Looking back, did I even think of anything else?)   I had a multitude of emotions and feelings tucked away in the corners of my heart and mind that I had no idea what to do with. Feelings bubbling up that had no where to go.   I no longer wrote in an official “diary”, but I continued to write in notebooks to express myself—poems and songs mostly.  I always felt better after I shared myself through writing.  Relieved. Free. Like I could breathe again.


 Throughout my adult years, I have purchased journals – usually when I was going through a rough patch. I have also  been gifted journals and have filled every page!  When God gave me the idea of Healing Journals for women, I understood why.  Because writing in a journal, a diary, a notebook is healing and healthy.  Writing in a journal can be anything at all.  Anything. No limits.  Creativity at its best. And being a woman I know that we have so much inside of us that is often NOT EXPRESSED because we are so busy taking care of others!  A multitude of emotions stuffed, stuffed and stuffed – to deal with at a later date when we have “time.”

Women: You are worthy of time with yourself, worthy of expressing yourself, worthy of feeling whole, healthy, happy and balanced!  There are many ways to use a journal on your well-being journey.


One way to utilize a journal is to write down your thoughts and feelings to express them and understand them more.  On my healing journeys throughout life, I would rant on the pages, praise on the pages, set visions in writing, be afraid on those pages, pray on those pages and be in gratitude on those pages.  I would ask questions on those pages and the answers would come.  I knew I needed to express myself emotionally to help myself mentally, physically and spiritually.  Writing is one healing modality among a multitude of many in mind, body, spirit balance and health.


As seen and further explained on my website, www.frequencyofyou.com, emotions and feelings that are not processed get stuck in the body and can cause mental and physical dis-ease and a multitude of other imbalances.  Writing in a journal can help release and move energy in the body.  If you are a regular “journaller”, you understand the healing factor.  You understand it can improve the quality of your life.  Writing in a journal is a great compliment to your other well-being practices such as meditation, exercise, balanced foods and energy work such as The Emotion Code (of which I am a certified practitioner.)  It just feels so good to write, draw and create in a journal for You!  It could be a great end-of-the day recap to release emotions that may not have been released during the day or a fantastic way to start your day in gratitude by counting your blessings and setting your intentions


Positive Psychology states that journaling and expressive writing has been found to:

  • Boost your mood and affect
  • Enhance your sense of well being
  • Reduce symptoms of depression
  • Improve your working memory
  • Help shift from a negative mindset to a positive one, especially about ourselves.


Writing  in a journal can also be used as a visionary tool!  If you are familiar with vision boards, you know that it is a creative tool for claiming what you would like your life to look like!    Well, writing in a journal does the same thing! You can create a vision board with words or pictures on the blank pages of your journal!  Fill your journal with your dreams and visions for your life experience:   draw pictures, glue pictures, write inspiring words and your intentions for the day, week, month year, one year from now – and feel those visions in your heart!  Creation is magnified when the heart is involved in your vision!   Get excited and celebrate as you fill the pages!  Smile, laugh, dance — as if those visions are already here and you are living that life!  And it will be so!


P.S. I think journal writing can be a wonderful tool for any woman – no matter how many years she has spent on this planet – who gets to be on a self-love journey!  See the journals in my series:  I am whole and happy.  And it is so.  Love letters to me.  I am peaceful, all is well.